Training vs Trying

Here is a blog post from my wife Dora based on her experience at the MidWinter conference this past January. Enjoy!

What I am about to share with you is not an idea I thought of myself. In fact, based on what I can find about its origin, it’s an idea that has been around for quite some time. The reason I am writing about it now, is because if it is something that I missed out on for so long, maybe there are others out there who have missed it as well, and would find it as enlightening as I do.

First, let’s start with a couple of definitions (and examples):

Try (verb): to make an effort to do something; to attempt to accomplish or complete something; to do or use (something) in order to see if it works or will be successful, to do or use (something) in order to find out if you like it.

Examples: you try bowling, painting, riding a bike, eating spicy food, etc.

Train (intransitive verb): to direct the growth of (a plant) usually by bending, pruning, and tying; to form by instruction, discipline, or drill; to teach so as to make fit, qualified, or proficient; to make prepared (as by exercise) for a test of skill; to aim at an object or objective.

Examples: you train to run a marathon, you train for your profession, you train for taking a driver’s license test.

So it would appear that the difference between trying something and training for something is that you “try” something you think you might like or be good at to see if you actually do like it or might be good at it, but you “train” for something you want to be good at or you want to accomplish. “Trying” is more of a one (or two) time effort, while “training” is an ongoing process.

Why am I making such a big deal out of the differences between these two words/ideas? Because I hear so many people (myself included) who say they are trying to be better people, trying to be better parents, trying to be better friends, trying to be better spouses, trying to be better Christians. And, while all those things are admirable things to strive for, I think they are goals that deserve far more effort than a “try”.

The amount of energy a person puts into “trying” something is going to be much less than the amount of energy someone puts into “training” for something. If I want to try NASCAR racing (which is NEVER going to happen, but stay with me here) I might go out and get the best car, make sure the gas tank is full and all my safety equipment is in working order, and then show up at the starting line to race (again, not going to happen) my best. The chances of me finishing even one lap though are pretty small. Why? I’m just trying to race. I haven’t put my full energy into the endeavor, or taken the time to learn anything about driving in a NASCAR race.

Now had I trained to be in a NASCAR race, I would have probably done the things above, but I also would have found someone to teach me the ins and outs of driving in a race, I would have practiced driving at the necessary speeds in different weather conditions, I would have found the best pit crew and worked with them to understand how my car performs at high speeds. And I would have started out gradually, building up my skills and understanding over time. I would have good training days, and bad training days, but I would keep on training day after day so that there were more good days than bad days.

This is the same way it is with training to be a follower of Christ. The original twelve disciples didn’t just try to be followers of Jesus, they trained at it. Jesus didn’t just gather them together and then tell them to go out and spread His word. Day after day, month after month, they learned new lessons from Jesus. Lessons of love, forgiveness, faith, and trust. And they didn’t have just good days during this training. To name a few:

  • Peter’s experience walking on the water. (Matthew 14:22-36; Mark 6:45-56; John 6:16-24)
  • Thomas’s experience of doubting the resurrection. (John 20:24-29)
  • James’, John’s & Peter’s inability to stay awake while Jesus prayed in Gethsemane)
  • Arguing about who would be the greatest in Jesus’ kingdom. (Matthew 18:1-4; Mark 9:33-37; Luke 9:46-48)
  • Telling a man who was casting out demons in Jesus’ name to stop doing so. (Mark 9:38-41; Luke 9:49-50)

But even with these “bad” days, they continued training to be messengers of God’s word. Of His forgiveness. Of His Grace. And just like the disciples, we are all called to be messengers of God’s amazing love and grace. While we don’t get to have the awesome experience of having Jesus as our own personal trainer in the same way the disciples did, we still have the opportunity to train with Him to be better messengers of His word. To me this means spending more time reading the training manual (in other words, the Bible), looking at others who are further along in their training and learning from them (both successes and failures), finding and using other resources (such as blogs, bible studies, commentaries, etc.) to stretch & grow my knowledge and understanding (not just of the Bible, but of people), putting myself in positions that help others (even if there is no “benefit” to me).

I don’t know about you, but I’m certainly going to stop trying to fill this call, but instead I’ll be training for it. I know that there will be bad days. In fact, there will be miserable days of training when I will just wish I would have stayed in bed and will wonder how Jesus could ever use me to shine His light. On those days I hope someone will remind me that training is hard, and messy, and draining. I also hope that they will remind me that those days are going to be the days I grow and learn the most.

Attention Twenty-Something Leaders!

Are you ready to get started? We want this to be your best year ever! We want you to be able to connect and grow with God and our church is a great place to do it.

Fridley Covenant Church is pursuing Christ and His mission by:

1) Emphasizing the life-transforming walk with Jesus.
2) Centering on the Word of God.
3) Transforming the local community through Manna Market (our food and clothing ministry).
4) Engaging our people in global initiatives (like clean water projects in Africa).
5) Heartfelt contemporary worship.
6) Sacrificial and generous living and giving.
7) A healthy leadership team.

But there is one thing we really need: young people in their 20’s!

We are currently launching a brand new 30’s and 40’s group and we have a handful of people that age who are eager to get it going, but we don’t have enough 20-somethings to start anything. We really want to reach young people and we need some 20-something leaders who are willing to come in and help us start a ministry to reach their friends and neighbors. We want to be a place where all generations can come together and worship God and serve the community.

You have the chance to make this your best year ever by using the gifts God has given you. If you are interested in helping us build a ministry for your age group, please contact Pastor Mark at 763-300-1967 (call or text) or email him at so we can connect with you.

Do You Talk a Good Game?

This past Sunday, the adult education class began a chapter on submission from Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster. During the class, we explored seven large sections of Scripture that highlight submission and the reasons why it is important in the life and heart of a Christian. As I was preparing for class, I speculated in my head that most of the Scripture verses we would be reading through on Sunday morning would be familiar to most of the people who attend the class and I expected that we would not need to spend lots of time discussing the meaning of the passage.

As I have been continuing to mull the topic of submission this week, I am left to wonder if we have a much harder time living in submission than talking about living in submission. We talk about submission frequently and well in the Christian Church, but there are many examples of Christians struggling to live as humble servants. I was listening to a podcast of a sermon from another church and I felt convicted about this disconnect between what we believe and what we practice. I wasn’t convicted about not living as humble servant (although that is true at times), but because I didn’t want to leave the people who come to the class on submission with the idea that I never struggle with being humble. Friends, I have times when I am colossally bad at being humble and submitting to others.

If there is a disconnect between our speech and our actions, it is not because the Christian life is a hard path (even though it is), but it is because we don’t want people to see the difference between our beliefs and our actions. So we hide and we cover and we talk about the standard without ever rising to meet it. The most heart-breaking thing about this is not the cover identity we give ourselves, but the feeling inside we are left with: no one can ever know who we really are.
We don’t have to talk a good game. We don’t have to give ourselves a cover story. We are not perfect and there should be a place to talk about that and show our imperfections, so we can be known and understood and healed.

Perhaps that place can be Fridley Covenant Church…no perfect people allowed!